There was a time when I used to live my life on autopilot.
I used to go with the flow and let life just happen. I really didn’t think I had any control on how I experienced life.
In fact, I used to predict pretty much how my week would go according to the days. Mondays were “tough”, Tuesdays were “long”, Wednesdays were for “when is this week going to end”, Thursdays were reserved for “Thank God it’s almost Friday”, and Fridays were for “This weekend I’m going to rest”, Saturdays for “I have to do all the things I can’t get done during the work week” and finally Sundays for “Ugh, tomorrow’s Monday”.
Thankfully, I know better now.
I love that I don’t believe that how I used to think was wrong, or bad. I just didn’t know better. Sometimes I catch myself thinking how much I wish I knew then what I know now. But, I know that’s a waste of my energy.
Instead, I look at how I used to be as a reminder of how I want to live my life on purpose; as a co creator of my reality.
Thinking intentionally about how I want to live my life made me reflect on the things I will do for the rest of my life.
Change was like a curse word in my culture. At least that’s the meaning I internalized. I would always hear the word and make the connection that when people changed it was bad. It meant that they’d forgotten their roots or where they “came from”.
People would praise you , or wish you a happy birthday, and say: “I hope you never change”.
Of course, they were talking about never changing your values and morals; but, they’d also mean never change anything that would make them feel inadequate.
But, change is the name of the game. Whether we want to or not, whether we’re aware of it or not, people change.
I’d rather intentionally direct the way I change; and I’m willing to change anything that doesn’t serve me.
Change allows you to grow and evolve as an individual. You can acquire new skills and experiences that widen your perspective on pretty much everything.
Change is the only way we overcome our limitations and break old patterns of thinking and behaving.
When we shed our old patterns we create space to think of a new possibility for ourselves. New possibilities give us hope and purpose.
Now, changing doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. You’re worthy as you are. There is nothing you can do that would make you more or less worthy.
Changing is a personal journey that can empower you to transcend self-imposed boundaries and reach your true potential. You become what people call “the next best version of yourself”.
Changing on purpose can be uncomfortable since it requires you to leave what you know, and the predictability of your life, for something completely unknown. It also can be hard. Research shows how habits, when performed repeatedly, are etched into our neural pathways. This is how we go on autopilot if we’re not being intentional about our thoughts and actions.
If you’ve struggled being on fight or flight mode for a long time, and are now in a position where you can finally relax, then change doesn’t sound very appealing. But, as John C. Maxwell said: “Change is inevitable, growth is optional.”
The decision is ours when we’re ready: We either go through the discomfort of change or the discomfort of staying the same.
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